TO MARRY OR NOT TO MARRY?

ALRIGHT, I MAY UPSET SOME WOMEN WITH THIS POST TODAY.BUT I FEEL THIS NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED. I THINK THAT AN ALTERNATIVE VIEW SHOULD BE HEARD. WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT IS THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE.BY ALL MEANS,I AM A TRUE WOMAN.SOME MAY SAY OLD FASHIONED. I BELIEVE IN THE MAN BEING THE LEADER OF THE FAMILY. I BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN SHOULD HONOR HER MAN. I BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN SHOULD COOK FOR HIM. TAKE TIME TO TALK TO HIM,GIVE HIM MASSAGES OR WHATEVER TO EXPRESS HOW MUCH SHE LOVES AND RESPECTS HIM. AND DON'T GET ME WRONG,THIS SHOULD DONE BY THE MAN FOR HIS WOMAN ASWELL!! BUT WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH SOME WOMEN TRYING TO PRESSURE A MAN INTO MARRIAGE? I UNDERSTAND SOME WOMEN MAY SAY"WHY SHOULD I CONTINUE TO BE WITH HIM IF HE DOESN'T MARRY ME"? AND I GET THAT.I UNDERSTAND HOW ONE MAY FEEL. BUT SHOULD WE PRESSURE A MAN TO MARRY IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO? HOW HAPPY WOULD THE TWO REALLY BE?  SOME WOMEN ARE SO IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF BEING MARRIED THAT THEY COMPLETELY MISS THE OBJECTIVE. MARRIAGE IS A PARTNERSHIP  BASED ON LOVE!! NOT ABOUT THE BIGGEST DIAMOND. NOT ABOUT THE MOST EXPENSIVE GOWN.NOT ABOUT HAVING THE MOST EXPENSIVE CATERER,FLORAL ARRANGEMENTS OR HONEYMOON. I HAVE WITNESSED WOMEN COMING OUT OF BRIDAL SHOPS WITH THE MOST DISTURBED LOOK ON THEIR FACES.STRESSING ABOUT THE BIG DAY.SAVING UP FOR YEARS, MAXING CREDIT CARDS,WORKING OVERTIME. INVITING EACH AND EVERY FRIEND,RELATIVE AND ENEMY,LOL,TO THEIR WEDDING. ALL IN THE NAME OF SHOWING OFF. FEELING SUPERIOR FOR A DAY!! THE IRONY OF IT ALL IS THAT OVER 50% OF THESE MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE. BITTER ONES!! AND THEN THERE ARE THE ONES,WOMEN AND MEN ALIKE,WHO STAY STUCK IN UNHAPPY MARRIAGES. FEARFUL OF ALL THEY COULD LOSE SHOULD THEY DIVORCE THEIR FORMER SWEETHEART!! SO THEY SPEND THEIR DAYS PASSING THE TIME BY DRINKING,COUNTING THE STARS,WATCHING THE GRASS GROW,TAKING THE LONG ROUTE HOME,LOL.GET MY POINT? BASICALLY DOING WHATEVER TO BE AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS CURRENT THORN IN THE SIDE!! AND STILL SAVE FACE!! SAVE FACE FROM WHO I ASK? SOME SAY THAT "WELL, I MADE A VOW TO GOD". SOME SAY THAT" GOD PUT US TOGETHER". AND I SAY NO! NO,YOU MADE A VOW TO THIS MAN OR WOMAN!!  NO,GOD DIDN'T PUT YOU WITH THIS PERSON. YOU PUT YOU WITH THIS PERSON. SOME PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES IN LIFE AND THEN BLAME THEM ON GOD. SHOULD MORTAL LAW BE INJECTED INTO LOVE? ISN'T TRUE LOVE UNDYING? SHOULD WE HAVE TO FIGHT IF WE DECIDE TO PART WAYS? SHOULD THE FEAR OF MAN OR WOMAN DICTATE OUR HAPPINESS?  I BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE,BUT IT SHOULD BE A MUTUAL AGREEMENT.IT SHOULD BE PURELY BASED ON LOVE!!! IN THE FUTURE I WILL BE MARRIED. AND WHEN I AM, IT WILL BE A SIMPLE CEREMONY. NOTHING FLASHY,NOTHING EXPENSIVE. NO MATTER HOW SUCCESSFUL I  OR MY LOVE MAY BE!! I KNOW THAT MARRIAGE IS BASED ON COMMITMENT AND HOPEFULLY I WILL FIND A MAN(IN THE NEAR FUTURE), SPECIAL ENOUGH TO MAKE MY HEART AND MIND CONNECT WITH HIS ON A LEVEL SO DEEP THAT I WANT TO MARRY HIM. I ALSO KNOW THAT WE SHOULD TAKE OUR TIME TO THINK CLEARLY AND THROUGHLY ABOUT WHO WE ARE TO MARRY. WILL THIS PERSON LOVE YOU THROUGH GOOD AND BAD,THICK AND THIN? WILL THIS PERSON NOT ABANDON YOU SHOULD YOU BECOME ILL? WILL THIS PERSON BE SUPPORTIVE IN YOU PURSUING YOUR ASPIRATIONS? IS THIS PERSON IN LOVE WITH YOU OR IN LOVE WITH THE IDEA OF MARRIAGE?